Big sister

As the wait for adopting from China continues to grow (and since I have yet to get my 171-H from the US government), I thought it was appropriate that I talk to my daughter about waiting a little longer for her sister. Initially when beginning this process back in November, we thought that we would be traveling to China by the fall of 2006. This, I now know, will not be happening. Even if we receive an expedite due to my husband’s Chinese heritage, we still haven’t even had our documents sent to China yet.

Anyway, we had been telling our daughter (who will be four this April) that we would be going to China to get her sister when she is 4 & 1/2. Last night in the car I was explaining to her that it might take a little longer for us to get her sister, probably more like when she is about to turn five. I then assured her that someone in an orphanage in China would take care of the baby until we could go there to get her. What she said next was one of the sweetest things I have ever heard her say. She said “but what if another family goes to China and wants to bring our baby home with them?” When I tried to explain that it wouldn’t happen that way, she proceeded to say “good, because those orphanage people should know that I’ll be coming to get my sister.”

I guess she is ready to be a big sister after all!


23 Responses to “Big sister”

  1. 1 MarylandMommy March 24, 2006 at 12:50 pm

    Oh, that is so sweet! Your daughter is just precious!

    Our son was adopted from Korea & we are in the process of adopting a baby girl from Korea. We are hoping it happens soon!

  2. 2 Viv March 24, 2006 at 1:22 pm

    Aw, sweet!

  3. 3 Johnny March 24, 2006 at 1:27 pm

    What a sweetie.

  4. 4 Tammy March 24, 2006 at 2:30 pm

    AWWWW – isn’t she sweet. It’s tough to explain to the waiting sibling – and it’s disappointing. But I love how little ones view the world, so simplistic & innocent. I’m crossing my fingers for your 171 to get here asap.

    We broke a record with the length of our process (not a good one either). We thought we’d have child #2, from China, when our son was about four – he was 2 months shy of six when she came home. Our poor son probably thought his sister was like Santa – someone we talk about, but he would never see. UGH.


  5. 5 Kim March 24, 2006 at 2:42 pm

    You’ve got yourself a very sweet little girl there!


  6. 6 Donna & Joe March 24, 2006 at 3:03 pm

    Oh, Stephanie, that is soooo SWEET! Kids say the cutest, most innocent things, don’t they?

    Donna šŸ™‚

  7. 7 savymanda March 24, 2006 at 3:19 pm

    Cute and clever! What a special little girl you’ve got there.

    Hope that I171H comes soon, I remember that was a very exciting day for us.

    We did the I171H dance!

  8. 8 Kristin March 24, 2006 at 4:21 pm

    what a sweetheart! with that attitude, she is going to be a great big sister!

  9. 9 Eileen March 24, 2006 at 5:14 pm

    Awww that’s sweet! (to echo what others have said!) Lindsey surprised me about a month ago when out of the blue she asked “are we going to China today to get my Allison?” When I told her not today and it would be awhile yet she asked “Then who will take care of her? Who will make her feel better when she cries?” She hasn’t before or since said anything quite like that so that was a special moment.

  10. 10 Lisa and Tate March 24, 2006 at 7:48 pm

    Kids say the cutest things… what a cutie!!!


  11. 11 Shelli March 24, 2006 at 7:57 pm

    That is so sweet! It is hard for little ones to understand. My 6 year old just can not understand why we have to wait. She asks about her baby sister everyday!

  12. 12 Julie March 24, 2006 at 8:34 pm

    Hi Stephanie!
    That is so cute!! My son is 5 years old and talks about his little sister all the time. We have been talking about this adoption for so long that I thought he understood the process – well, a couple of months ago he asked me; “is this sister gonna be in my tummy or yours?”. Poor kid is a little confused!

    Julie B.

    p.s. I added you to my blogroll – I hope that’s okay!

  13. 13 Karen and Jon March 24, 2006 at 8:46 pm

    That is too sweet. This will be our first but we have talked to my niece about it. She is so excited. I read “I love you like Crazy Cakes to her”. She keeps asking why it was so fast for “that lady” but it is taking me forever.

  14. 14 Nicole March 24, 2006 at 9:52 pm

    That’s really cute. I’m sure she’ll do great as a big sister.

  15. 15 Juliet March 24, 2006 at 10:37 pm

    That’s so sweet! Your daughter will make a great big sister!

  16. 16 Linda, Brandon, Braydon, and Lila March 24, 2006 at 11:03 pm

    That gives me the warm fuzzies. She is so cute.
    Isn’t nice to know your doing something right when your kids say nice things.

  17. 17 J's Mommy March 24, 2006 at 11:10 pm

    how sweet is that? she’s going to make a wonderful big sis!

  18. 18 Sandy March 24, 2006 at 11:23 pm

    Awwwwe – it doesn’t get much sweeter than that!!

  19. 19 asiangarden March 25, 2006 at 3:31 am

    That is the cutest thing!
    I bet she will make a great big sister too!
    Is there any pressure from your husbands family for a son? Just curious.

  20. 20 chichimama March 25, 2006 at 11:34 pm

    Aw. That brought a tear to my eye.

  21. 21 Furkids In Hong Kong March 26, 2006 at 7:53 pm

    A big sister indeed!

    Thanks for visiting us Steph. Hope all goes well with the adoption and wish your family a wonderful future.

    Take care! šŸ˜€

  22. 22 Shelley March 27, 2006 at 6:02 am

    How is it that they always know just what to say that will tug at your heartstrings? That is just so sweet.


  23. 23 ciodude April 2, 2006 at 8:25 pm

    Great comment! Clearly she is ready!

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